Maui Zowie

I'm blogging this as I am getting ready to pack up the computer. Maui is one hell (excuse the word) of a place to leave. It is Paradise -- no doubt about it. The healing winds, the sun, the ocean, the weather, the people. This is a place that gives one hope.

Don't Crack that Joint

If you need a great Chiropractor on Maui, call Dr. Heather Galan (808) 667-2040, hchirogirl1@aol.com. Dr. Heather uses a technique called ART -- Active Release Technique, developed by Dr. Michael Leahy (see activerelease.com). Your knots disappear, your muscles stretch out -- ART is truly an incredible technique. (No cracking). And if other parts of your life are in knots that need to be worked out, call me for some Life Coaching. Coach Paula

Have You Laughed Today?

I try and laugh every day. I love humor. I love laughing. Laughing means being happy -- making life easier. My friend Debby has always had the ability to make me laugh -- she has always been fun! My friend Sinara, of Blessed Memory, always everyone laugh. Anyone can develop the ability to have a sense of humor. Think about it and do it now. Laughter is the best medicine -- for your heart, for your soul, and for your health! More later. Have a good night! Coach Paula

"Baby, It's the Only Way to Fly"

These were the words of my 96-year old mother (kpp) when I complimented her on her positive attitude. I had asked her how she was, and she answered, "Super." Now I know that's not exactly spot on, but she would rather say that than complain. Props for that.

The only way to fly. I'm going to remember that every time I want to complain about some little insignficant thing. Perspective is everything.

Someone (not a friend) recently told me I was "deluded" (and later I believe she used the word "delustional" when I told her I thought of my parents as being in their sixties. (I know their chronological ages). However in spite of the "facts", they are both vibrant, though somewhat slowing down, still laugh at our jokes and have a lot of wisdom to impart. I don't think it is delusional to think young, or think of your loved ones as younger than they are. I think it's a blessing.

My mother is not delusional either -- She is super in every way! Age is only a number. You are as young as you feel. Go and live vibrantly! It will keep you young. And if you want to be coached around age, aging parents, or staying away from name-callers, get in touch with me! Coach Paula

Where Are You?

#663 A Lack In Perspective

Some people make themselves sad over trivial matters. Any objective observer will look on in amazement. This person had the ability to live his life with feelings of happiness, since he truly does have what he needs. Yet he feels miserable because of minor and unimportant things. He views what he is missing as extremely important -- and what he does have pales in comparison! He even thinks that life is not worth living without what he's presently missing!
(from Rabbi Yosef Leib Bloch; Shiurai Daas, vol.2, pp.145-6;

Rabbi Pliskin's Gateway to Happiness, p.175)

Be happy today. All the best, Coach Paula

Sinara and Brad Pitt

No, they weren't an item. Not even close. As a matter of fact, the only thing that Sinara Stull O'Donnell and Brad Pitt have/had in common was Springfield, MO. Brad left to follow his path and find his dream and Sinara went there, leaving hers behind in LA, in order to care for her elderly parents. Actually, they did have something else in common -- both performers, both living someplace in search of an acting career. Sinara did comedy -- stand-up, and she did television -- guest spots on Cheers, General Hospital and To Tell the Truth. Brad left his family, his background, to create a new persona. Sinara had to reinvent herself in Springfield, as well. There were no TV opps here, no agents, no auditions, no more applause, at first. But her mother told her to find her light in Springfield. The same thing that motivated her to act lay within her, only now she had to find another way. And she did. She started going to Toastmasters, a public speaking group, in Springfield, which led her to a new career as a motivational speaker -- with very well paying gigs. She wrote her autobiography, she wrote articles and columns relating to careers and jobs. But, it was a short run. Sinara passed away almost two years ago, leaving a grieving husband, father and about 500 friends. Not many people can say they have 500 friends -- real friends. But she did. She cared about and helped everyone she met. She was responsible for the success of many of her friends, offering encouragement, challenging everyone to go for their dreams. She inspired, motivated and made everyone whose path she crossed feel better for it. When she died after a protracted illness, it was still a shock. She left too soon. She's holding forth in Heaven now, of that I'm sure. Everyone has a purpose; Sinara lived hers. Are you living yours? You don't need to be Brad Pitt to have a great life, you just need to be the best you that you can be. Follow your own light. And I wish for you, my readers, that someday, somewhere, you will find a friend like Sinara. Here's looking at you, kid.

Five Pieces of Paper

If you have paper clutter, start by handling, i.e., working on, filing, or tossing five pieces of paper a day. It adds up. If you can afford it, hire help. If not, ask a good friend to come over for moral support. You will be surprised at how quickly those papers disappear! Coach Paula

Situation Room

You are faced with a crisis. You go into panic mode. Then you remember that panic doesn't help. You get linear and in thinking mode. You come up with a course of action. All of these steps may occur in a blink of an eye. Your Brain is the Situation Room, and sometimes everything you learn comes from your Inner Advisors. You close your eyes and put the situation out in front of you. You ask for help, from someone known or unknown, living or on the other side. Sometimes, instantaneously, you have the answer. It is easy. You trust the Inner Guidance. You do a Reality Check. You move forward and take action. If you need to, you call your Life Coach. You have resolved the situation! Practice this and let me know how it works for you! Coach Paula

Morning Has Broken -- Get It Done!

On the phone, in school. learning, thinking about the day -- all the tasks to come -- I ask myself what is useful -- what is going to be useful today? Prioritize, make a "To Do" list, get things done. Have a good day as you move through everything you have to do, too! Coach Paula

The Play's the Thing

..."wherein I'll catch the conscience of the King." Hamlet by William Shakespeare, Act II, Scene II.

Your life is your Play. The King can be the symbol for your own operating system -- your brain which makes your decisions every day. The "conscience of the King," in other words, your conscience, is the brakes on the motor that drives you. You think you are in control, then you see that you ate that piece of cake, that you took the elevator instead of walked -- you forgot that you were trying to lose weight and get in shape. You bought the dress, you went out with the guy...why? Because you didn't "catch" or control your own "conscience." It's not willpower, it's willingness. It's a decision, nothing more, nothing less. You don't have to be happy about it. You just have to do the right thing. The right thing for you. The right thing for others. Hamlet was miserable, you don't have to be. Re-write your play today. And if you need coaching to help you do it, let me know! All the best, Coach Paula

15 Consequential Actions Later

I heard Sharon Salzman, the well-known (but previously unknown to me) meditation teacher on the radio today. She was talking about how meditation can help avoid the unfortunate results of actions taken in response to negative emotions such as anger, etc.

I had never heard the term "Consequential Actions" before, and thought a lot about it. Actually, every action is consequential -- there is some consequence, or result, good or bad, or neutral.

My computer just went black. I looked down and the power cord had become separated from the adapter. The black screen was the consequence.

Would you take the same actions you take every day if you knew what the consequences would be down the road? Would knowing the future, or potential future change the course of action you are about to follow now? Think about it. I did. I better get a new battery for my computer...