Monday, August 8, 2016

The Positive Power of Friendship

In life, they say, we are born alone and we die alone.  Our souls come from the Universe and go back to the Universe.  But in-between, we are connected to other people.  First our families -- then we are gifted with friends.  And if we are especially lucky, our family members become our friends, as well!

Why do we need friends?

The way we experience ourselves in life is through our work and our relationships.  (Freud's "love and work" paradigm).  We experience our identity through that which we create and our relationships. Whether it is writing a book, birthing a child, making a meal or planting a garden -- our energy goes out into the Universe in a manner that connects us with others.

Friends are those special people that we have elected to be in relationships with -- people we like, or love, who like or love us back and enjoy being with us.  We spend time with friends, doing things that are enjoyable, building memories and gaining strength from the positive regard and affection of others.

Next time you go to a party --

Try this experiment.  Instead of worrying what you look like, what people think of you, etc.  Go with the intention of bringing positive energy into the space!  Maybe there is  someone there you can help!  Maybe your laughter and upbeat mood will improve someone's day.

Carry only positive thoughts into the space. Speak only positive words.  You will be surprised at the wonders that will ensue!  Here is wishing you a wonderful day and much friendship and joy!

Thursday, July 11, 2013


When you get up in the morning, how do you organize your day? Or do your responsibilities, i.e., your job, your kids, your laundry, do it for you? Sometimes it seems like our days create themselves and fly by own their own. But there is another perspective -- we can create our days by being mindful of what we need to do, what we have to do and what we want to do. And, we can always do something! It is the very process of taking action that enables our innate creativity. Sometimes, when things seem overwhelming, it is just doing one thing. And sometimes that one thing leads to the next, and the next. But there are some things that can move us spiritually towards where we want to be: One of them is to be with friends! People are social beings! We need the stimulation, energy, laughter and love that friendship provides. People who have friends have been found to be happier, healthier and to live longer! If your friends are busy with their own lives, guess what? There are always new friends to be made! Visit a nursing home! Join a meet-up group! Take a class! Talk to a neighbor! There is no amount of money, no diamond so big, no piece of gold as valuable as a good friend. And the way to have a friend -- be one! We all need friends. Not new information, just a happy reminder! Now go email, text or call a friend and make plans to see each other in person! And have a great day!

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

No More Pain! Thank you Dr. Lipton!

Congratulations to Dr. Glenn M. Lipton, M.D., Pain Management Specialist, who has recently expanded his practice from Arizona to include Southern California. He is now seeing patients in Beverly Hills, Marina Del Rey and Newport Beach. According to Dr. Lipton, prompt treatment of back, spine and other pain can increase one's quality of life, enabling one to fully enjoy one's work and home life, as well as achieve one's goals. Dr. Lipton is Board-Certified in Pain Medicine under the American Board of Anesthesiology, the gold-standard credential for pain medicine because it is the only pain certification under the auspices of the American Board of Medical Specialties (ABMS). In addition, Dr. Lipton holds further certifications from the American Board of Interventional Pain Physicians (ABIPP) and the American Board for Pain Medicine (ABPM). Dr. Lipton served as an ABIPP board examiner, lectures and instructs other physicians around the country on new surgical techniques, and keeps his knowledge and skill set current by holding active memberships in over eight of the national pain societies. To make an appointment with Dr. Lipton, call 310-574-0499.

Friday, September 14, 2012

Kim Kardashian

If you want a good example of someone who is living her dream, just lok at Kim Kardashian. She took a social life and turned it into a career. She and her mother and sisters, and to a lesser extent, her step-father, took who were they and made it what they did. And by most accounts, has been having a swell time in the process. Even with a public short marriage, Kim has managed to brand herself, put out a clothing line, perfume, a book....And create an empire in the process. To analyze her formula for success, in a superficial, but succinct way, she knows who she is, she plays to her strengths and she is NICE to everyone in the process! Her personality, combined with her looks and her enormous talent at selling herself as a celebrity, have made her the success she is today. Don't be fooled by the clothes and make-up; all the Kardashian women are hard workers who know how to maximize what they have to offer. They have proven that likeability is a huge factor in reality success and that that is something they all, particularly Kim, have in abundance. Likeability is a huge factor in all success, an issue which I will deal with in greater depth in another post. So,no matter what you think of reality TV, or the Kardashians, there are many lessons to be learned on how to be successful and happy and have a tight family all at the same time. They exemplify enthusiasm, optimism and action, three factors that we Life Coaches attempt to model for our clients at all times. And they do it in a big way.

Friday, April 20, 2012

Zerizus -- Enthusiasm and Action -- Revisited

More blogging on zerizus!

posted by Barbara D. Holtzman at Zerizus! - 3 years ago

I found an incredible website, another blog that deals with zerizus. Access it here: Believe and Achieve Coaching from Rabbi Zelig Pliskin

The Power of Belief and Your Angels

A client of mine told me this story. She moved to a new area and wanted to make new friends; she said she felt alone. She was home during the day with a baby and hadn't yet signed up for Mommy & Me or for any Meet-ups in her area. So, she prayed for a friend. At the same time, she had gone online to for a Mother's Helper. A woman her own age answered the ad and the two started talking. Seems they had grown up not far from each other. When they started talking high school, the helper candidate mentioned a male friend of hers. My client had grown up with him! His mother had been a "special angel" adult in the life of my client. My client and the candidate met and the helper did some work. But my client said that the miracle was that the "special angel" adult showed up in her life to let her know that she was in fact being watched over and wasn't alone! Where is your belief today? Where would you like it to be? Need a friend, or an angel? You can do it! If you need help, coaching is here for you.

Friday, March 9, 2012

Spring is in the Air

As we say goodbye to sweaters, coats and dark afternoons, we are looking at the re-birth of the earth. And with it, metaphorically, our own. But can we do, as spring approaches, to start over, give ourselves a boost, feel better in every way? First, get out into the sun for at least 30 minutes per day. New studeis are showing that sun is beneficial not only for Vitamin D, but for mood and feelings of well-being. Of course, it goes without saying that warm weather is another opportunity to exercise outside -- hiking, biking, skating, running, walking...whatever you like! And spring is a time to clean out the old and bring in the new! Decide today what you can get rid of in your environment to improve the energy, and what can you bring in? Do you have new goals? Maybe drop a few pounds before bikini season? If you are at a "start-over" or renewal point, consider Life Coaching to give you the extra motivation and boost to realize your goals!