Change the Situation or Change Your Perspective

#708 If You Don't Like a Situation Change it or Change Your Self-Talk
There are always two possibilities about any unsatisfying situation: Either you will be able to change it, or you will be able to change your self-talk.
Telling yourself, "There is nothing at all I can do to change this situation, therefore I must feel bad," is not based on reality. How can anyone possibly say: "There is nothing at all I can do to change the situation"? You can always pray, can't you? Your Father, your King, Creator and Sustainer of the universe, can change any situation in a moment.
You might find a book or article that gives you ideas that can help you find a solution that you didn't think of before.
You might find a teacher, mentor, coach, or friend who can make suggestions and think of ideas that will enable you to change a situation.
Events might unfold that totally change the situation. The Purim story teaches us that even an impossible situation that spelled total doom can be changed in a single moment.
You might think of a way to reframe the situation so that now you view it differently. What previously seemed like a problem and a difficulty can now be seen as a wonderful opportunity to grow and develop yourself. What was once considered a liability can now be seen as an asset.
You always have a choice of your self-talk. Ask yourself, "What can I think about now that will improve the way I am feeling?"
You can always think, "The more challenging a situation, the more I can grow from it."
The more skilled you are about creating positive self-talk in challenging situations, the easier it will be for you to handle new challenges in the future.
(from Rabbi Zelig Pliskin's book: "Conversations With Yourself", pp.78-9) [Artscroll.com])
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Be the Love You Want

Everyone wants something. If you want it, you usually feel you are missing it -- that you don't have it. The way to have mental and emotional states you want is to create them in your mind. If you want people to be friendly to you, be friendly first --when you are, you show it to the world and attract it back. If you feel friendly, the world is a friendly place. When you feel joyful, the world is a joyful place. And when you feel loving, you attract that love into your life. It's no secret....

One Day at a Time

#699 One Day At A Time
Your life's purpose and mission are the top topics about which to have self-conversations.
You only can live at one time: today. Rejoice and celebrate when you have what you need for today. This way you will be able to experience a sense of abundance each and every day.
Gain the benefits of living with abundance one day at a time. Some people are so worried about the future that they forget to experience the full benefits of abundance day by day.
Remember this rule: Having enough for today gives you abundance for today. Imagine how much you will benefit from living with this attitude.

(from Rabbi Pliskin's new book, Life is Now: Creating moments of joy, courage, kindness, and serenity, p. 71)

This is It

This is the perfect moment. How do I know? Because it is the only one that is here now. It is the only one in which we can give to others, to receive and be grateful and to move ahead with our lives. If you aren't sure about what to do with your moments, consider Life Coaching. It's a way in....

Living Life One Moment at a Time

#678 Living Life One Moment at a Time

Your mind and soul can choose to think, speak, and act wisely and meaningfully wherever you are at any given time. You live your entire life one moment at a time. You only need to choose to think one wise thought at a time. You only need to choose to say one positive sentence (or word) at a time. You only need to choose one meaningful action at a time. These all add up.

(from Rabbi Pliskin's new book, Life is Now: Creating moments of joy, courage, kindness, and serenity, p. 22)

Now or Never

It's almost Yom Kippur -- the Day of Atonement when the fate of the Jewish people will be sealed for the year. Who shall live, who shall die, who shall become rich, who shall go the other way, etc., etc. So, in thinking about the holiday, I am struck this year with what a Blessed year (kpp) I had. I had so much love, so many happy times....God is good. But I don't believe in punishment based on repenting one day. I think repentance is an ongoing process, as is loving, every day of the year. I think that striving to have good midot (character traits) is a process that supercedes one day of "confession." I think every day is a day of taking stock, every day a day of confession -- and of absolution. The sages say that there are three things to lighten a "sentence" by God -- prayer, charity and repentance (or, an alternate to that is prayer, charity and Torah study). So, every day we have the opportunity to begin again -- to ReDecide -- what we are going to do, what we are going to say, how we are going to live our lives. Ethics, morals and values are not for one day a year -- they may inform that day, but are quintessentially the infrastructure of our lives. Every thought, every feeling, contributes to the overall. This Yom Kippur, I wish you an easy fast, but more than that, I wish for you an easy year to come, when all your decisions lead to joy and ease. I wish you love and peace and candor. I wish you every good thing. And thank you Jamee and Cherrie for your wisdom and caring during this year. Be happy! Coach Paula

Today

Today is usually my day of rest, but today is my day of action. Time to go to the store, cook and finish getting ready for the New Year! Hope yours is Sweet! L'Shana Tova. Coach Paula