Ground Your Worries --Rabbi Zelig Pliskin

#789 Ground Your Worries
Frequently people jump to the conclusion that they have a problem, when in reality there is nothing to worry about. To overcome this tendency, make it a practice to look closely at the available facts. By carefully investigating the situation, it will often show that your original worries were groundless.

(Tnuas Hamussar, vol.1, p.132; Rabbi Pliskin's Gateway to Happiness, p.158)


Also, wen you look at the facts, you are taking your mind off the worries. Your mind can only hold one thought at a time. Nx times you are in an uncomfortable situation, work on shifting your perspective in the moment.

If you can be happy and positive in the moment, chances are the situation wil shift itself.

The Lesson of American Idol

Just because your mother thinks you can sing doesn't mean you're going to get a record deal. Brutal honesty starts at home. If you are that good, find out from a pro,and pursue it. And if you're not, make it your hobby and move on. You can always record and sell your own music, but if that's not going to make you the living you envision, then find another way to incorporate music into your life.

Learn the distinction between reality and positive thinking. Know what you can do, and do it. And know what the realities of your talents are. You have something to give. Find out what your gift is and give it. You will be a lot happier.

Why Do You Care What They Think?

Do you find yourself trying to please everyone? It's not only impossible, but not in the least desirable. If you give the farm away, what is left for you. Take care of yourself first -- if you don't, where will you get the energy to take care of your loved ones?

A client told me that she had to please everyone at her job. When I asked her why, she looked at me blankly. She thought that if she did enough, magically, everyone would love her.

For self-healing, I recommended mirror therapy. Can you live with what you see in the mirror? If so, if you are in your integrity, then you are on your way to a successful life.

Certainly, you have to please your boss and meet the needs of your clients -- but can you make the whole world happy? Not likely. Spend your time, effort and energy where you will get the greatest return. And be happy!

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Fly!...based on a Chassidic Tale

A man had dream in which he was walking around and around a narrow precipice. He looked to his left, and there was a pit of fire, to his right a void of darkness. He walked in terror and offered a prayer. From the Heavens, an angelic voice sang out the one word answer to his dilemma, "Fly!"

When you have a choice to make, which option will give you wings? Which one will empower you? Make you fly?

Conversation

Most of life is a conversation. You are speaking, asking, responding, yelling, whispering -- you are engaging with people, animals, businesses, organizations -- others in life. And you get to choose the tenor and mean of the conversation. How will it go? You get to decide by what you say. What you say is largely determined by how you listen, what you hear, how you interpret what you hear, what you believe about what you hear. So, next time you are in a conversation, listen carefully and reflect before you respond. The spoken word is very powerful. It is creative. Help with a kind word. Uplift with an inspiring word. And, those other, not nice words -- banish them from your speech. Think before you speak. Think about the outcome you want from the conversation. What are you giving? That will determine what you will get back. Have a good conversation. Make someone happy today! Life coaching is a conversation and life coaching can help you have many good conversations in life. Happiness to you today and always. Coach Paula

Don't Be Swayed from Your Goals -- Rabbi Zeli Pliskin

#259 Don't Be Swayed From Your Goals
Be crystal clear on your main goals in life. Then, when a situation arises that might disturb your peace of mind, ask yourself, "How does this impact those goals?"

When you realize this present situation does not have a major effect on what is really important, the problem will shrink in significance and your peace of mind will be restored.

Try it today. -- Rabi Zelig Pliskin

(see Gateway to Happiness, p.77)